HOO is Amanda?

Photo on 2013-10-31 at 11.45 #3

Kia Ora, I am Amanda, when our son came out, I was not surprised and as an arty, liberal type I thought, I had this, it would be plain sailing.   Actually as it turned out, my hubby and I were, not surprised but still shocked and unsure of how to handle some issues that came up. We sometimes still have wonderings.

We found that Josh’s coming out didn’t end there, not only was it a transitional time for him, it was also the beginning of our coming out to friends and family.

Where we sought support there was little, where we least expected it, we found it. Most of all as a family we have all grown through this and have developed a stronger family bond, we continue to navigate this road together and we are all richer for the experience. Josh is our wonderful son, we would not compromise or change any part of who he is, we are very proud.

I am a social worker and currently completing my counselling Post grad. I feel I am now in a good place to start supporting parents and families through these growing pains, so if you are feeling, lost, alone, isolated, angry, confused, guilty or a little unsure come and join me and lets talk this through.

Lets support ourselves, our children, our families and our communities together, we are each a vital link in the chain.



2 thoughts on “HOO is Amanda?

  1. please help, I am at a point I

    dont know what to do. I have the most gorgeous well ground son who has just come out. I am so proud of him, but my husband who I love dearly has reacted in the most horrendous manner, and I dont know how to handle the situation without loosing one of them

    1. Hi Nyree, what a difficult time for you all. Your son is so blessed to have parents that care so deeply and to have such an open minded, supportive mum. Being caught between two people you love is awful, and in time the situation will calm down. Perhaps in time you will be able to support them both? I am sure that having raised a well grounded son, your husband will realise this is not a choice, that no loving son would choose to be in a position that may lose him his family? Your son will realise that this is often hard for parents and give his father time to calm down. It is very important to let your son know you love him and are supportive of him even if you are alone in this. This can be a dangerous time for our children who will feel rejected, confused and alone. This is not a time to choose sides, this is a journey and your husband is grieving his lost expectations that he had for his son. His response is fearful, sad and angry. I think a well grounded son must have learnt that from is parents? Perhaps your husband just need some time to realise nothing has really changed his son is still the wonderful person he raised. Please give them some time and please stay in touch. Are you in Auckland? You are welcome to chat with me on face book or email me on holdingourown@outlook.com
      Amanda (sending you strength and a warm hug)

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