HOO is Amanda?

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Kia Ora, I am Amanda,

When our son came out, I was not surprised and as an arty, liberal type I thought, I had this, it would be plain sailing, I could manage.   Actually as it turned out, neither my hubby nor I were surprised but still it impacted us profoundly, it was confronting.  However I believe there is a brilliant light at the end of the tunnel, you child is perfect – I know, I have been through this and I really do get it.

Unsure of how to handle some questions and family issues that came up, there was no support available in Auckland. This is a long journey and we still sometimes still have wonderings and questions. Holding Our Own now offers the support that we needed, years ago.

We found that Josh’s coming out didn’t end there, not only was it a transitional time for him, it was also the beginning of our coming out to our friends and family.

As a family we have all grown through this and developed a strong family bond, we continue to navigate this road together and we are all richer for the experience. Josh is our wonderful son, we would not compromise nor change any part of who he is, we are very proud of all that he is.

I am a Registered Social Worker with a counselling Post grad, I work in Mental Health for children and Youth.  I started Holding Our Own in 2014 and we have many families who support and have been supported through difficult times.  If you are feeling a little lost, alone, isolated, angry, confused, guilty or a little unsure give me a call and lets talk this through.

Lets support ourselves, our children, our families and our community together, we are each a vital link in the chain.

Warm regards                                                                                                                               Amanda

 

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2 thoughts on “HOO is Amanda?

  1. please help, I am at a point I

    dont know what to do. I have the most gorgeous well ground son who has just come out. I am so proud of him, but my husband who I love dearly has reacted in the most horrendous manner, and I dont know how to handle the situation without loosing one of them
    Nyree

    1. Hi Nyree, what a difficult time for you all. Your son is so blessed to have parents that care so deeply and to have such an open minded, supportive mum. Being caught between two people you love is awful, and in time the situation will calm down. Perhaps in time you will be able to support them both? I am sure that having raised a well grounded son, your husband will realise this is not a choice, that no loving son would choose to be in a position that may lose him his family? Your son will realise that this is often hard for parents and give his father time to calm down. It is very important to let your son know you love him and are supportive of him even if you are alone in this. This can be a dangerous time for our children who will feel rejected, confused and alone. This is not a time to choose sides, this is a journey and your husband is grieving his lost expectations that he had for his son. His response is fearful, sad and angry. I think a well grounded son must have learnt that from is parents? Perhaps your husband just need some time to realise nothing has really changed his son is still the wonderful person he raised. Please give them some time and please stay in touch. Are you in Auckland? You are welcome to chat with me on face book or email me on holdingourown@outlook.com
      Amanda (sending you strength and a warm hug)

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